I don’t know about you, but I dread going to weddings. Not because I have been single for too long and that I am jealous of couples I know who can Netflix & Chill at home. I dread going to weddings in Singapore because it’s so boring! As boring as drinking Australian wine. It’s always the same thing (just kidding, some Australian wines are truly outstanding).
You know the drill. First, you need to decide how much you will give to your soon-to-be-married friends. You can even find a website that tells you the amount of money you are supposed to give depending on the venue. How romantic is that? Then you need to go buy a new outfit because you cannot wear the same dress you wore at a common friend’s two months ago. You don’t want to look cheap. On the actual wedding day, you get there, take some pictures with the brides, shake hands, eat the same food at the same venue and drink the same cheap wine. Pick up your crappy wedding favours and go home.
I am not a selfish person nor am I a bad friend. Of course, I would be happy to be there for my friends on the happiest day of their lives (this is debatable given the amount of stress generated for the bride on the wedding day, but anyway). Actually, what bothers me the most is that the brides themselves don’t have enough fun. They spend so much energy and money on trying to keep up with other wedding trends that they forget to make this unique moment, their moment.
Don’t you think that if most couples were daring enough to express their own love for each other, it would be much more enjoyable for their guests too? I want to attend my friend’s wedding, not the wedding they are supposed to have. I understand that not everyone can afford an expensive wedding where you invite everyone to a fabulous destination wedding. And some of you have to save face to preserve for your family image. But, there is an alternative where you can break the rules and make your own, without breaking your bank account and still please your parents’ primary school friends.
I don’t want to list the wedding tips to organise your own weddings because knowing Singaporeans and their love for fads, it will quickly become the new standard for weddings (not being pretentious at all). So, here are two examples of INITIATIVES you could take to express your love story and make your wedding yours, for you and your guests.
Most people buy the wines they serve from the venue caterers. It’s not that cheap and it’s certainly not good (around 20 SGD a bottle). Instead consider an option like Wine & Chill, where you get bottles of red wine approved by international critics for only 30 SGD. If you have 400 guests and that on average you need one bottle for every three guests, it’s only a 1300 SGD price difference (3.2 SGD extra costs per guests. It’s a slight increase in cost but I guarantee you the wine your guests drink is an important part of making a good impression. Plus, Wine & Chill are flexible and can take back wine that you do not finish during the wedding.
Let your guests enjoy your special moments instead of letting them focus on their smartphones. Even though you hired an expensive photographer, the most important is the format in which you are going to print it. Yes, print your pictures. And don’t just print them and put them in an ugly envelope. Print a whole photo book where you can create a storyline, with customized pages and covers. Check out Photojaanic.sg. With their services, you can easily create and print your own photobook without taking design classes or burning a hole in your pocket. You don’t have to print it for all your friends, but you can consider at least one for your closest friends and family. It would make a difference for their experience at your wedding.
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